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People believe they are right about the things they believe they are right about. When I mention this phenomenon the reply is usually, "Don't you?" My answer is often viewed with suspicion, because no, I do not. My beliefs are quite malleable, being based upon current information and understanding - two things I acknowledge can change. To me, what is suspicious is those who deny that acknowledgement. That is truly an example of the extraordinary.

I suppose at our core, all humans desire to be understood. I see this as a three-fold process: Understanding ourselves, imparting that information to another adequately, and understanding others. To this end one tool we have at our disposal which far surpasses any other is communication, something some people see as a luxury afforded only the esoteric.

Despite my miserable track record I've been fascinated with non-violent communication as it relates to subjectivity - something which I saw in myself as being guilty of and am now learning to integrate. Its pervasiveness makes it quite the challenge. In order to effectively communicate, we must remove evaluative words which are subject to interpretation - as a start - everything can be interpreted differently, but at least with a starting point of non-judgmental evaluation, only then can we deconstruct meaning.

It is frustrating to attempt to communicate with people who do not understand themselves, do not want to understand themselves, do not understand me, do not want to understand me, and have no interest in the idea of mutual understanding outside their own paradigm. "Right" is a subjective term. What one group of people consider right, another group of people may not. "Wrong" and "normal" fall under the same scrutiny.

Kathryn Schulz on TED: "On Being Wrong" (thanks to [livejournal.com profile] pcofwildthings) A Series of Unfortunate Assumptions:

Trusting too much in the feeling of being on the correct side of anything, can be very dangerous. This internal sense of rightness that we all experience so often is not a reliable guide to what is actually going on in the external world. And when we act like it is, when we stop entertaining the possibly that we could be wrong...this is a huge practical problem. But its also a huge social problem. Think for a moment about what it means to feel right. It means that you think that your beliefs just perfectly reflect reality. When you feel that way, you've got a problem to solve. Which is, how are you going to explain all of those people who disagree with you? It turns out most of us explain those people the same way - by resorting to a series of unfortunate assumptions.

The first thing we usually do when someone disagrees with us is we just assume they're ignorant. That they don't have access to the same information that we do and when we generously share that information with them they're giong to see the light and come on over to our team. When that doesn't work - when it turns out those people have all the same facts that we do and they still disagree with us, then we move on to a second assumption - which is that they're idiots.

They have all the right pieces to the puzzle and they're too moronic to put them together correctly. And when that doesn't work, when it turns out that people who disagree with us have all the same facts we do, and are actually pretty smart, then we move on to a third assumption - they know the truth, and they are deliberately distorting it for their own malevolent purposes.

This is a catastrophe. This attachment to our own rightness keeps us from preventing mistakes when absolutely need to, and causes us to treat each other terribly. But to me what's most baffling and most tragic about this is that this is the whole point of being human. We want to imagine that our minds are just these perfectly tranlucent windows and we just kinda gaze out of them and describe the world as it unfolds. And we want everybody else to gaze out of the same window and see the same thing, and that's just not true.


I recently discovered why I struggle. Programming. When the things I experience; learn, differ from that which I was taught as truth - a reconciliation absolutely must take place. This is the source of my struggle - attempting to overwrite one ideology with another. Childhood programming runs deep, and while I've recently been astonished to discover those who do not care to question their own behavior, beliefs, values or worldview; directed maturation seemingly runs deep within me. My father did it, and I benefited from it. I'm doing it - and I'm already enjoying the results in my own children - the unencumbered freedom of open-mindedness and being non-judgmental.

Though changing oneself is certainly challenging at times.

Which is why I struggle.
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I've been on this path lately of nuking paradigms as I come across them - and not just the easy ones. The hard ones. The ones no one questions because they either have to look too deeply into themselves, or they don't care to. But the whole passivity of waiting for something new to come along to challenge has really been dragging me down. I've therefore decided to expand my practice to actively seeking things to challenge!

Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it. ~ Mark Twain

Its interesting what you learn about people by their opinions. Its even more interesting what you learn about them when you ask them why they believe something - anything - to be real, or true, or even why its their opinion. To prepare myself, I've been asking myself these questions too. I don't want to outright reject established paradigms for many of them which exist are in place because they have a high rate of repeatable success. That doesn't mean I won't verify them, however. And I really have been questioning everything. No topic too big, no topic too small!

That's what she said!

Exhausting? Yes. But I do it while I walk; three, one hour walks daily. Mental fitness, physical fitness. I try to separate logic from emotion from biology and then link them back together perhaps in a different order - to sort out which bits are playing a role where. Its fascinating really to look at anything at all and suddenly question why it even exists - why its there, in place. I'm surprised to find most of the answers lie in some sort of socio-econiomic religious tradition.

Tradition = NOT a good reason to do some shit you've always done.

What will be next? I HAVE NO IDEA! Its INSANE to challenge EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME. Unless of course you believe in consistently expiring your baselines to establish new, more effective ones. Constant reevaluation without provocation. That's been my motto for months now, and knowing me and my path, I don't see it changing anytime soon...Though I do plan to challenge its effectiveness from time to time!

Perhaps it requires such depth of oppression to create such heights of character. ~ Nelson Mandela

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During our Wild Damn Texan heyday [livejournal.com profile] drax0r and I were returning to the office from a rare offsite break where we entered our two-story office building's elevator. Just before the door closed, the only other person we'd ever seen in the building entered the car. drax0r pushed the button to the second floor.

The stranger commented that the presence of more than a single button was excessive, as a single button would suffice no matter which floor you were on, or which floor you were attempting to gain access to. drax0r agreed, adding that if you didn't know (for whatever reason) on which floor you started, a second button further complicated the process of getting to where you needed to go.

By virtue of being in the elevator of a two-story building they agreed that a single-button user interface was not only more effective, but also more efficient.

I was reminded of the time I set my answering machine to emit a single beep rather than a message telling the caller what do after said beep - we all know what to do after the beep. Unless there is no self-fulfilling message prior as it turns out, as 100% of my callers did not leave messages. When I confronted them as to why, they all explained they were waiting for the beep after the message rather than the beep itself. In my mind someone - anyone - would enter that single-button elevator and be dumbstruck as to how proceed based on a shift from the standard paradigm.

That aside, any system which is highly configurable is by that very nature also enormously complex. Self-aware artificial intelligence systems even moreso. But a single-button user interface has a power so great as to outlast and outsmart highly configurable enormously complex AIs: universal understanding. [The elevator scenario notwithstanding] any person from any age group from any culture any where would no doubt be compelled to press the only button in sight.

Its power is in its simplicity.
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Wizard101 has probably been the most expensive free game I've ever played. Unless you count the individual copies of Starcraft II we collectively purchased when it was released. I understand companies not wanting someone to pirate their software, but its difficult to explain to a 10-year old that for LAN-disabled play, Blizzard required us to shell out $60 for each computer in the house. Which is, in a way, where Wizard101 shines - family accounts!

But my empirical mindset didn't take the easy path. There are two forms of in-game money, "gold" and "crowns." Gold is gathered via quests and hidden caches while crowns are purchased either online or over-the-counter at brick & morter businesses with real money. Some special items you can buy with only gold and others only crowns. This is perfectly acceptable. Because we were on the free account, we didn't have access to every area in the game - those were for monthly subscription users - or - you could pay for them with crowns. The upswing is that crown-payed areas are open to you FOREVER. Monthly-subscription users only have areas open to them while they're paying.

But after several, several, increasingly-priced closed areas (they started at around 700 crowns or $1.25 and quickly jumped to between 900/1200 or multiple 900/1200-crown purchases nested inside 2000-crown areas) it was quickly becoming untenable. The children had exhausted their savings at multiple crown purchases at $25 a pop - something I was NOT willing to bankroll. We, collectively the children and I as I discussed this with them, decided that perhaps the monthly subscription was the way to go after all - every new world, every new dungeon, is open and accessible and NOT 900+ crowns. Which means we could play and level freely, then later, if we wanted - go back and pay for the areas we thought might be worth it, rather than paying up front and not wanting what we got once there.

To make matters easier, Wizard101 gives a deep discount on family accounts. So instead of the $150 we invested in the game last month, all three of us can play for $20/month and that is something I'm willing to bankroll.

I had this conversation years ago with [livejournal.com profile] drax0r when he was paying a subscription to play World of Warcraft and I was unconvinced this paradigm shift was going to be in my favor. I think it was Tim Buckley (I could be mistaken), the author of the web comic CTRL+ALT+DEL who, in his blog compared those bitching about game subscriptions akin to people who buy automobiles and then are aghast that to run them they need to additionally pay for gasoline. I found his example simplistic because we hadn't been getting the gas for free for the past 100 years.

So with the entire world open to us this weekend, we gamed. All weekend we gamed.

And I drank wine while gaming.


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Two days ago, it was 75-degrees and sunny. That night, it dropped to 38. And last night? Ice! Out of the hundreds of cities which make up the Dallas/Fort Worth Metroplex, our little town made the news last night as the hardest hit location. My father called to warn me. Then, this morning:


Anna Independent School District has issued a 2-hour delay in opening due to weather.


No worries. I send an email to work detailing that I might not be in today and drink another cup of coffee. What with the roads being too treacherous to traverse and all. Two hours later, however, they canceled school! My wife's boss called her and told her not to come in (she has a much longer commute than I do) and I considered spending all day at home with two kids. That shifted my paradigm considerably, and I decided the roads couldn't be that bad, could they?

15 minutes to drive the .8 miles to the highway, and another 15 minutes further to work.

Life is good.



In the place of a Dark Lord you would have a Queen!
Not dark but beautiful and terrible as the Morn!
Treacherous as the Seas!
Stronger than the foundations of the Earth!
All shall love me and despair!

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