My therapist told me I'm smarter than her, the stagnated relationship with my long-term potential lover admitted I occasionally intimidate her, and my brother wants me to apply for Mensa for the, "bragging rights." all within a 24-hour period. I don't require that type of external validation. That said, remaining emotionally available and open-minded on a wide range of topics simply isn't working for me anymore. My ex's all tell me I'm, "a lot" and "too much" and when you hear that over and over and over no mater how strong you are, it starts to eat away at you, and eventually you may begin to believe these things about yourself.
On a much more positive note - and because I ask her often - Cass adores (what she calls) my "muchness" <3