Reversal

[ehowton]

Now that I've backed off, she's going to start pursuing a relationship with me at some point, of this I'm fairly certain. It's almost inevitable.

Did you know you can be a better partner to more than a single significant other than you can be to only one? It helps each person in the relationship not ever feel like they're being too much, or too needy, and it absolutely assists in never taking your partners for granted. The increase in communication alone regulates that. As for my wife, she appreciates having someone to pass me off to when she's feeling withdrawn - that she doesn't have to be "on" for me when she's not feeling it or requires downtime. Its a way for no one in the relationship to ever feel left out.

There's a certain inalienable comfort and immutable validation in such a configuration when done correctly, and who doesn't desire that in every relationship ever? When you trade that for something you believe is more socially acceptable or because that's how you were raised, you have the potential to lose so much more in the exchange; the potential to lose so much more of yourself than you would ever wish to. It can be so insidious you may not even notice for years, or decades. Yes it takes courage to live unabashedly, but the payout is far greater than can be imagined. The comfort, the security alone is powerful and life-changing.

I wouldn't change it for the world.