Intimacy is My Aphrodisiac

[ehowton]

Even if my wife's BFF and I never become lovers, I cannot imagine a world in which we don't remain the closest of friends; how I feel about her has less to do with the carnal and more to do with our communication and discussions of ideas. which brought me back to my Relationships post back in 2012. I'd seemingly forgotten many of the things I'd learned in penning that piece, so that was a nice refresher.

I wish to be her friend first and foremost - and forever. Why I have a tendency to infrequently entertain ideas beyond that has to do with the weight of our topics of discussion and my own worldview; no one else's. I alone am responsible for choosing whether or not to tend the garden of fanciful ideas and imagined relationships (usually well) constrained in my psyche. And I do tend to them, which is likely why they occasionally burst through. That's on me.

But as the Relationships post of 2012 also reminded me, carnal attraction (is/can be) the direct result of an intellectually stimulating, intimate personal relationship, and therein we discover its true roots. Sex without intimacy is nothing at all, ever. Intimacy without sex as I'm discovering can have challenges all its own! Of course I'm not talking about something as inconsequential as a fling; we want her with us - for as long as she finds it mutual beneficial. Stoically speaking however, whichever way this turns out in the long run, I am comforted by knowing the emotions for which I am solely responsible, and our ultimate friendship, will - like all things eventually do - balance.