Dissent

[ehowton]

Writing prompt:

You don't know if your relationship with me, or with [my wife] would survive your jealously [in a poly relationship].

Why not?

When dating, two people generally get to know one another. Before things continue upward on the relationship escalator, each side has an opportunity, through dialogue, to outline their fears (vulnerabilities), their hopes (transparency), what they see themselves as bringing to the relationship (reciprocity), along with their expectations (also reciprocity) and any boundaries. This all occurs before anyone moves forward.

Which action(s) under intimacy do you not trust? Dialogue? Vulnerability? Reciprocity? Transparency? Jealousy is fear, and stated aloud, falls under vulnerability; meaningful dialogue would allow for transparency. Assuming you trust in jealousy (vulnerability) enough to disclose it, why would you not trust the transparency needed to assuage it? Given that you, myself, and my wife each strive above and beyond to fully flesh out - through communication - solutions to issue past and present, along with the emotional maturity to allow for trial & error, setbacks, starting-from-scratch, and going back to the drawing board until successful resolution, which part of that do you genuinely believe wouldn't survive, and again, why?

As mentioned in my hot take poly folks downright THRIVE on dialogue, interaction, boundaries, and intimacy. Jealousy actually interjects a necessary component for relationship dynamics, resulting in loving success. For contrast compare any other type of relationship without that discussion present.