The things I desire in life, I give freely, so they may be returned upon me. If I have to ask for them however, it defeats the purpose. At that point rather than engaging in a fulfilling relationship with someone, I'm instead bartering for goods and services. Friendships and marriages then give way to partnerships and limited liability cooperatives, or worse - dependency.
Exactly! I have met several people in my life who will not give of themselves in any way without assurance of "payment." If I'm nice, what assurances do I have that someone else is going to be nice. Really? WTF?
My question has always been why do you need those assurances. What does it cost you to be nice, give another person what s/he desires? Nothing. Nothing at all. And sometimes you reap the benefit of their gratitude..., or some reciprocity down the road.
Yet some people remain intent on their whorish behavior ~ give nothing without assurances of a return on their investment or better yet, see if they can get what they want without investing at all.
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ninetydegrees
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Exactly! I have met several people in my life who will not give of themselves in any way without assurance of "payment." If I'm nice, what assurances do I have that someone else is going to be nice. Really? WTF?
My question has always been why do you need those assurances. What does it cost you to be nice, give another person what s/he desires? Nothing. Nothing at all. And sometimes you reap the benefit of their gratitude..., or some reciprocity down the road.
Yet some people remain intent on their whorish behavior ~ give nothing without assurances of a return on their investment or better yet, see if they can get what they want without investing at all.