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Writing prompt:
I wish this question wasn't a question at all, but the truth is, there are those who claim to practice so-called polyamorous relationships without also practicing ethical non-monogamy; they use it as an excuse for bad behavior, much the same way religious polygamists marry as many women as they want while simultaneously forbidding women from taking more than one husband. Because...God or something equally as ridiculous. Or people assume one male must be gay. Or perhaps the configuration is indicative of a BDSM power-dynamic in which surely one of the males is a cuck, or bottom, or anything except a vanilla heterosexual equal sharing his life with other vanilla heterosexual equals. Adding to our character-revealing assumptions, those of us with zero knowledge of sociology or anthropology often invoke the fabricated "traditional family" moniker in conflict with not only our own revered religious texts (were we to actually, you know, read them), but also our rich history of innumerous sociosexual configurations throughout history. It's tough growing up in rural Middle America as the offspring of pious dirt-farmers. Alas.
All of the (closed) triadic relationships I have personally been in have been FFM - which is comforting and wonderful in all the ways you could ever imagine, and opens up unimaginable possibilities for true, selfless intimacy and conversations which encompass untold variations on topics of ideas, and their malleability in the right hands. Given my experiences in FFM, I would absolutely embrace an MMF poly structure for two primary reasons: One, because its absurd to believe I could single-handedly fulfill every desire/want/need of my partner over the course of their life, and two, can you even imagine what a fun, easy, simple-yet-fulfilling life could be lived not having the stress of being the sole emotional-support/cheerleader/priesthood-leader/co-conspirator...forever? Or having to live with mistakes you've made in attempting to do so? The overarching benefits are almost unimaginable in sharing the responsibility of day-to-day life in all its guises not to mention having an equally-yoked helpmate in overcoming the obstacles life seems to enjoy throwing our way in a never-ending volley of challenges.
That's not to say of course I don't cheerfully accept the terms and throw my entire whole-ass self into visibly manifesting - daily - being fully present in my currently monogamous relationship. Honestly, I don't know how to live any other way. But in much the same way my wife has often vocalized wishing she could pass me off to second-wife when she’s mentally spent or I'm "too needy," or a wish for me to comfort her BFF in the bedroom so she can go get some rest or work on a project, I would unequivocally embrace the opportunity to do the same in an MMF configuration. What an absolute joy I envision it has the potential to be.
Would you be in a male-male-female poly relationship?
TL;DR: YOU BET YOUR ASS I WOULD!
I wish this question wasn't a question at all, but the truth is, there are those who claim to practice so-called polyamorous relationships without also practicing ethical non-monogamy; they use it as an excuse for bad behavior, much the same way religious polygamists marry as many women as they want while simultaneously forbidding women from taking more than one husband. Because...God or something equally as ridiculous. Or people assume one male must be gay. Or perhaps the configuration is indicative of a BDSM power-dynamic in which surely one of the males is a cuck, or bottom, or anything except a vanilla heterosexual equal sharing his life with other vanilla heterosexual equals. Adding to our character-revealing assumptions, those of us with zero knowledge of sociology or anthropology often invoke the fabricated "traditional family" moniker in conflict with not only our own revered religious texts (were we to actually, you know, read them), but also our rich history of innumerous sociosexual configurations throughout history. It's tough growing up in rural Middle America as the offspring of pious dirt-farmers. Alas.
All of the (closed) triadic relationships I have personally been in have been FFM - which is comforting and wonderful in all the ways you could ever imagine, and opens up unimaginable possibilities for true, selfless intimacy and conversations which encompass untold variations on topics of ideas, and their malleability in the right hands. Given my experiences in FFM, I would absolutely embrace an MMF poly structure for two primary reasons: One, because its absurd to believe I could single-handedly fulfill every desire/want/need of my partner over the course of their life, and two, can you even imagine what a fun, easy, simple-yet-fulfilling life could be lived not having the stress of being the sole emotional-support/cheerleader/priesthood-leader/co-conspirator...forever? Or having to live with mistakes you've made in attempting to do so? The overarching benefits are almost unimaginable in sharing the responsibility of day-to-day life in all its guises not to mention having an equally-yoked helpmate in overcoming the obstacles life seems to enjoy throwing our way in a never-ending volley of challenges.
That's not to say of course I don't cheerfully accept the terms and throw my entire whole-ass self into visibly manifesting - daily - being fully present in my currently monogamous relationship. Honestly, I don't know how to live any other way. But in much the same way my wife has often vocalized wishing she could pass me off to second-wife when she’s mentally spent or I'm "too needy," or a wish for me to comfort her BFF in the bedroom so she can go get some rest or work on a project, I would unequivocally embrace the opportunity to do the same in an MMF configuration. What an absolute joy I envision it has the potential to be.
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