Trajectories

One of the things which surprises me (and which I haven't quite wrapped my head around) is how I could be so much in love with someone I admittedly know so little about. Even my wife questioned this given the very different evolution of our own relationship. My reply to her at the time was to remind her that every relationship is different and our own had an entirely unique start comparatively, but that doesn't explain how/why I fell so hard for her BFF given how little I know of our own compatibility.

The (approximate) seven years I've known her BFF our acquaintance has been superficial at best, and while I fell in love with her mind and how she thinks, is that really enough to pursue a relationship with her at this point? I mean, I assumed so with my wife - it was how she processed data that I felt would be a compatible and advantageous pairing - but I also had time to get to know her prior to advancing on the relationship escalator. I haven't yet had the time with her BFF yet still, I persist.

Perhaps then its the empirical data gained from the entirety of the relationship with my wife from inception which leads me to inherently believe no one else would be better suited for the BFF than us, and us, for her? That something truly magical and fulfilling could be built together far surpassing anything any one of us individually could accomplish of our own accord? I absolutely believe that - so does my wife - but how do you convince the uninitiated of the possibility of limitless potential?

All that said, my wife wants only for me to protect my heart. Now, I don't know how to actively accomplish that, but it dawned on me today that eventually - were she to resort to unparalleled levels of disinterest - its entirely possible my feelings will slowly subside and we'll revert to our pre-romantic friendship.