Without question you are correct. Children are a way of life. One which I pursued for more than two years with my partner and we were together for 8 years before he came along. It has shaken the foundation of my trust in my own judgment that my partner was not as committed to that in a traditional family sense as I and I missed it. But looking at it the way you put it I need to find the courage and ingenuity to keep that way of life for myself and my son despite what or who swirls around us. I like it, that seems less uncertain to me.

and you say I shouldn't take your advice... :-)